Quiz: Should we ELOPE or throw a WEDDING?
If you’re reading this then you’re probably engaged - CONGRATULATIONS! It truly is so special to find your forever person. Maybe it’s been a little while since the big question, “will you marry me?”, or maybe you’re the type to get planning straight away, and you’ve sat down to dream up your wedding day…but wait, there’s just SO much to think about and you don’t know where to start, and maybe an elopement is sounding like a good idea?
If that’s the case, take a DEEP breath in, exhale s l o w l y, and let’s see if eloping is truly the right way to go for the two of you…grab a pen and get ready to note your answers!
Who wouldn’t want to elope at a stunning black-sand beach like Piha? So dreamy.
Forget social expectations…what is YOUR ideal wedding scenario?
a) A grand celebration with family and friends
b) An intimate ceremony with just close family members
c) A private affair with only the two of you
How important is it for you to have traditional wedding rituals and customs?
a) Very important, I want to honor tradition
b) Somewhat important, but I'm open to simplifying or modifying them
c) Not important at all, I prefer something non-traditional
What is your budget for the wedding?
a) High budget, willing to spend generously on the right things
b) Moderate budget, willing to spend reasonably
c) Low budget, prefer to keep expenses minimal
How involved do you want your families to be in the wedding planning process?
a) Very involved, I value their input and support
b) Somewhat involved, but ultimately, I want to make the decisions
c) Minimally involved, I prefer to plan everything myself
How do you feel about the idea of exchanging vows in a public setting?
a) Excited, I love the idea of declaring our love in front of others
b) Comfortable, but prefer a smaller audience
c) Uncomfortable, I'd rather keep such a personal moment private
How much time do you want to dedicate to planning the wedding?
a) I'm willing to dedicate a significant amount of time for planning
b) I prefer a shorter planning timeline to reduce stress
c) I want to avoid investing too much time into planning
How important is it for you to have professional photography and videography at your wedding?
a) Very important, I want high-quality memories captured
b) Very important, that’s why I’m on your website!
c) Very important, it’s the start of our marriage journey afterall!
What kind of atmosphere do you envision for your wedding day?
a) Festive and lively, with music, dancing, and entertainment
b) Warm and intimate, with meaningful conversations and connections
c) Serene and tranquil, with just the two of you in a scenic location
How do you feel about the idea of compromising on your ideal wedding vision?
a) Willing to compromise to accommodate others' preferences
b) Willing to compromise to a certain extent, but want to prioritize our desires
c) Not willing to compromise, I want our wedding to reflect our exact vision
What's your main priority for your wedding day?
a) Creating lasting memories with loved ones
b) Having a meaningful and personal experience
c) Keeping the focus on the bond between you and your partner
Celebrate with your closest loved ones with a champagne tower!
Once you've answered these questions, tally up your answers to see which option (wedding or elopement) aligns more closely with your preferences and priorities. Yes, I’ll admit, question 7 was a bit of a cheeky one!
But if most of your answers are a)’s then it seems like you really value celebrating with your community, and having them witness your marriage. After all, who would you be without them?
Start your marriage with your community’s cheer in your ears
If you have mostly b)’s, it’s time to nail down your guest list and look at venues! You can see six of my favourite intimate wedding venues here in Auckland.
If you have mostly c)’s, I think you’re after a getaway with just the two of you (mayyybe a handful of close family and friends? Any more than 10 and it’s more of a micro-wedding!).
If you’re still not sure - remember, regardless of how many people are at your wedding, at the heart of it all is the two of you making a commitment to each other and celebrating that commitment! Be sure to have it captured, so you can relive the memories and share them with your loved ones.
The photos throughout this quiz were taken by yours truly ;) I’m always keen to listen in on new love stories so if you’re ready to share yours, hit the button below!
